The second question was:
What is the difference between forgiveness and enabling?
Forgiveness is not about ignoring the sin but rather confronting it. However, it is willing to take liability for that sin ourselves. Forgiveness is not seeking to get revenge or payback. When one forgives, someone has to pay. If you forgive then you are willing to pay. There is another aspect of forgiveness that is different than enabling and that is the forgiver is not trying to be superior or control the other person.
Enabling is often just nothing more than ignoring the wrong and not looking for restitution either from the forgiven or the forgiver. Forgiveness is willing to go to the person having already forgiven that person.
What do you think? I love to hear your comments.
1 comment:
I guess from my previous work with Restorative Justice Chatham-Kent, forgiveness is 'complete' when it is restorative! ... although "Forgiveness” and “restorative justice” are not the same thing. They do, however, have several important similarities. First, they focus on responses to wrongdoing and wrongdoers. Second, they emphasize the repairing of harm as the goal of such responses. Third, they require the wrongdoers be accountable for the harm they have caused, by acknowledging that they caused it, and that they bear responsibility for repairing the harm they have caused. And finally, they bring those who have been harmed into the process of accountability and repair, and focus attention on their needs. All in all, I think this means that forgiveness contains an element of justice being satisfied for all.
... rambling thoughts on a Wednesday afternoon from Pastor Gord! ... and Question #3 is ...??
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