Judo

In judo you use the strength of your opponent against him.  Satan is a judo expert and he uses the strengths of both genders against them.  Man's strength is their independence while a woman's strength is their interdependence.  However, Satan the judo expert uses the strength of woman to move from interdependence to dependence and he uses the strength of men to move from independence to autonomy, unaccountability and tyranny.  One of the reasons why gender roles come under so much criticism is that what should be used for good is used for evil.  When man fell Satan made woman dependent upon man while he made man lord it over the woman.  This was not the way in the beginning and it will not be the way in the new kingdom but meanwhile the church needs to show the world that gender differences can be used for the glory of God.

Remember, Jesus is subject to the Father but He is equal to the Father.  This picture of equality and submission is carried out in the church and in the home.  Man needs to use his independence in submission to his wife and the church.  Woman needs to use her interdependence in submission to her husband and the church.